Honoring the Journey, Not Just the Results
I was speaking with a client recently, and she said that she needs to step things up to lose more weight (she has a lot to lose). She has lost a good amount in the past 2 years, but minimal when you look at the results you see on infomercials. I told her to keep in mind that her weight loss is a journey.
We live in a world of immediate gratification. If you need to know something, Google it. You need to ask a person a question, text it. Even Amazon is testing drones for same day delivery!
The health and fitness industry is no stranger to the promise of instant gratification. "Lose up to 10 lbs. in the first month!" with this program. "Lose 3x more weight!" with that program. It's no wonder people start diets and workout programs, then promptly quit when they don't see the immediately results they were hoping for. The problem is that we didn't put the weight on overnight. It took time. Time when we developed poor habits, negative thought processes and self-talk. It's only natural that we will need time to reverse all of that.
When we focus on the results, we neglect to respect the journey it takes to reach those results. During that journey, we discover so much about ourselves and the process we are taking. Those who focus solely on the results will often times quit if they don't see the results they expect. If they do achieve the desired results, they more often than not have learned nothing about themselves and eventually regain the weight.
So what can you do to not focus on the results and honor the journey?
1. Realize real weight loss takes time.
As I said above, you didn't put the weight on over night. It's not going to come off over night. Be patient and let the process work.
2. Real weight loss takes hard work.
Unfortunately, there is no magic pill for real lasting weight loss. It takes hard work, in the gym, in your kitchen, and in your head. Put in the time and the effort. It's not always pretty. You may stumble from time to time, but the hard work will pay off in more ways than one.
3. Change the self-talk.
Oh the horrible things we tell ourselves! "I'm not good enough." "I'm don't deserve x, y, and z." "I can't." "Nothing works for me." Toss that nonsense out with the garbage! How has that self-talk served you in the past? I'd venture to bet not too well. We are our own worst enemies. Next time you catch yourself in negative talk, try telling yourself that you are good enough, and that you can do anything if yo put your mind to it! It's not easy to change that mindset. It's been ingrained in our heads for so long! Keep working at it.
4. Assess the roadblock and figure out how you can move it.
There will be roadblocks along the way. That's a given. Weight loss, like anything really, is not a straight line. It zigs and zags. If something is in your way, take a look at it and decide if you can move it or go around it. If you need to take another route, do it. Just don't throw your hands up and say it can't be done.
5. Forgive yourself for slip ups.
We all slip up. If you went to that party and had 2 pieces of cake, pizza, and chips and dip, it's not the end of the world! Forgive yourself and get back on the path. Hell, this past weekend I ate Girl Scout cookies, Goldfish, potato chips, a bag of pretzels, and pizza, AND I only did one quickie workout. That wasn't my intention when the weekend began, but it happened and I will move on. You can move on, too.
During the past 2 years, my client has been learning how to eat well, how to navigate social situations, what her overeating triggers are, and how to work around her back pain. I continue to tell her what a privilege it is to witness her gain insight into herself, her thoughts, and her habits. She is on an amazing journey and loving every minute of it!
Honor your journey and you will gain some insight into yourself. Your results will come, and they will more than likely stay.